Category Archives: Personal Development

Where I talk about the experiments that I run on myself in hopes to increase my productivity, mental capacity, or better my overall health.

TLC v3 in Singapore

Hanging out with old guys in Singapore

I used to think that I worked well under pressure given my background in organizing events but when I started work at an IT services company as a Project Manager, I found that I apparently don’t respond too well to it especially when it comes in the form of an angry client screaming at you through the phone.

In my defense, both experiences happened when I had to take over an already messed up project but regardless of the situation, I should be able to handle the situation and diffuse it professionally and confidently. Instead, I end up stuttering and babbling and not at all regaining the client’s trust and confidence in me.

It was through these experiences that I started studying more and more about project management in an effort to just be more put together and be less frazzled when tough situations come up. I went about it very technically to the point that I almost signed up to take a PMP exam but fortunately I used Mark as my personal therapist while he was Symph’s business consultant and that lead me to join something called The Learning Circle with him.

The Learning Circle is what I fondly call my “PM Hippy Group”. It’s essentially an invite-only learning circle where people, who are leaders in any product development effort, meet with each other both physically and virtually for eight months and go through a program inspired by Theory U to not only learn tools that will enable them to become better leaders but also to unpack the mystery that is their own psyche through the views and experiences of the other participants.

Very hippy, right?

At first I didn’t really know what to think of it as Mark just said that it was a group for “people who are in the process of learning” when he first introduced the concept to me. I thought, “Well, I am someone who is currently in the process of learning and this is going to be a group of people who are much more experienced leaders that I am, ” because later on in the application process to the group I found out that I was the youngest participant so I went, “heck, what do I have to lose. Let’s do it!”

Eight months later, it’s safe to say that the program was more than what I thought it would be and turned out to be one of the most formative experiences of my life. Not just my working life, but my life-life. It provided me with an idea of what the future could become and how I could go about unveiling it, it gave me relationships that I genuinely think will last a lifetime and most of all, I managed to control my stuttering and get a grip on myself in tough work situations!

So what did we do exactly at The Learning Circle? Frankly, the program itself is very loose and although it introduced some tools that could be used for better team collaboration, it was more centered on getting to know one another and learning from each other’s experiences.

We primarily had online sessions held via Zoom that would last for about an hour or two where we go through a tool like Personal Values Assessment (PVA), Case Clinic or Lean Coffee in each session together. Supplementing these online sessions were on-site sessions where myself and Mark had to fly to Singapore to meet with the other participants. These on-sites probably wouldn’t have had the same effect if we didn’t pair it with the regular online calls. There’s just a certain charm in seeing someone you’ve been talking to regularly online and then finally getting to share a meal with them in person.

I also particularly liked the on-sites as they were often held in one of the participants’ homes. It felt very personal and, well, homey and that I think elevated the experience.

I learned as much about myself as I learned about others. I learned how to identify the parts of my thinking that could be improved and it, unexpectedly, translated into my work in real life.

The idea that The Learning Circle revolves around — where instead of the word “mentor” being associated to one person, it is associated now to a group of people who are not only invested in your growth and learning but are also open to receiving your care for them — is something that I really enjoyed experiencing and hope to help others experience as well.

Myself and Mark will be starting to interview people to join our own “fork” of The Learning Circle program for participants in the Philippines this November so hit me up if you’re interested. For other experiences like this, you can stay tuned for the Product Tonic Unconference next year and for the next batch of the u.lab 1x MOOC that is run by the team who wrote about Theory U.

Cheers to continuous learning!

Ashley Uy pushing her sister into the ocean

Baby Steps to Stress Management

Becoming aware of my workaholic tendencies really took some time. I’ve always considered myself to be someone industrious and that it was a trait to be proud of; but one day two years ago when I came home from work, I immediately took a bath and headed to bed exhausted and just before I dozed of to sleep I heard my sister say “yeesh” as if she was scared of what she was seeing, did I realize that I needed to slow down. This blogpost was requested by one of my ko-fi donors and is something I’m excited to finally start writing about.

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Ashley Uy volunteering at a GDG Design Sprint event

Bringing out “The State of Flow”

“Well, when you are really involved in this completely engaging process of creating something new, as this man is, he doesn’t have enough attention left over to monitor how his body feels, or his problems at home. He can’t feel event that he is hungry or tired. His body disappears, like none of us do, to really do well something that requires a lot of concentration, and at the same time to feel that he exists.”
– Excerpt from transcript of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s TED Talk

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Ashley Uy Calling her mom in TS APAC Summit 2016

Getting to “Work-Life Balance”

I didn’t find much value in this phrase when I was younger. Maybe it was because I was that much of a workaholic (my sister calls it “being extra”) that I thought the way that I lived back then was the balance because of all that I expected of myself. If I wasn’t doing schoolwork, I’d be  doing volunteer work, or taking freelance projects, or doing work for my part-time job. There wasn’t much room for anything else and I kept that momentum up until a year or two after I started working.

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Ashley Uy Startup Weekend Bohol 2016

2 Task-Tracking Tools I Use Everyday

I’ve been listening to the Optimal Living Daily podcast these last few weeks which I’ve become a huge fan of, and I noticed that some blogposts that talk about “productivity tools” recommend a lot of tools for the different tasks that you have to deal with on the day-to-day. Though I understand that they do that to give the reader more options to choose from, I don’t agree that one person should be using all of it at the same time.

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